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Quitter

Have you ever felt caught between the tension of a day job and a dream job? That gap between what you have to do and what you'd love to do?

I have.

At first I thought I was the only one who felt that way, but then I started to talk to people and realized we're becoming the I'm, but generation. When we talk about what we do for a living we inevitably say, I'm a teacher, but I want to be an artist. I'm a CPA, but I'd love to start my own business.

I'm a _____, but I want to be a ______.

All too often, we hear that dreaming big means you quit your day job, sell everything you own, and move to Guam. But what if there were a different way?

What if you could blow up your dream without blowing up your life?

What if you could go for broke without going broke?

What if you could start today?

What if you already have everything you need to begin?

From figuring out what your dream is to quitting in a way that exponentially increases your chance of success, Quitter is full of inspiring stories and actionable advice. This book is based on 12 years of cubicle living and my true story of cultivating a dream job that changed my life and the world in the process.

It's time to close the gap between your day job and your dream job.

It's time to be a Quitter.

 

 

 

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, author Stephen R. Covey presents a holistic, integrated, principle-centered approach for solving personal and professional problems. With penetrating insights and pointed anecdotes, Covey reveals a step-by-step pathway for living with fairness, integrity, service, and human dignity--principles that give us the security to adapt to change and the wisdom and power to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates

Journey From Abandonment to Healing

Susan Anderson's book clearly defines the five phases of a different kind of grieving--grieving over a lost relationship. An experienced professional who has specialized in helping people with loss, heartbreak, and abandonment for more than two decades, Susan Anderson gives this subject the serious attention it deserves. The Journey From Abandonment to Healing is designed to help all victims of emotional breakups--whether they are suffering from a recent loss, or a lingering wound from the past; whether they are caught up in patterns that sabotage their own relationships, or they're in a relationship where they no longer feel loved. From the first stunning blow to starting over, it provides a complete program for abandonment recovery

Forgive for Good

Based on scientific research, this groundbreaking study from the frontiers of psychology and medicine offers startling new insight into the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness. Through vivid examples (including his work with victims from both sides of Northern Ireland’s civil war), Dr. Fred Luskin offers a proven nine-step forgiveness method that makes it possible to move beyond being a victim to a life of improved health and contentment

The Five Love Languages

In The Five Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman talks about how different people express love in different ways. Some people are verbal, expressing their love in words. Others may never speak their affection, yet they show it by the things they do.

Sadly, many couples look to receive love the same way they give it, misunderstanding their spouses. This can lead to quarrels, hurt feelings, and even divorce. However, if you understand each other's love languages, you can learn to give and receive love more effectively.

Here’s a list of the 5 love languages and a brief description of them each:

Words of Affirmation – People with this love language greatly appreciate hearing compliments and encouraging words. They feel loved through what they hear and are pushed away by harsh criticisms.

Quality Time – People with this love language prefer undivided attention and plenty of time with their loved ones. They feel loved when they have lots of time invested in them, but for people with this love language, absence certainly doesn’t make the heart grow fonder.

Receiving Gifts – People with this love language appreciate receiving presents and the thoughts behind them. They feel loved when they are given gifts spontaneously and are greatly offended when special occasions are forgotten or a thoughtless gift is given.

Acts of Service – People with this love language prefer their loved ones to perform meaningful and thoughtful acts. It could be as simple as washing the dishes or mowing the lawn, but they appreciate it and feel valued by such deeds. However, they feel unappreciated when they work on a task while their partner just watches without offering to help.

Physical Touch – People with this love language greatly appreciate simple gestures like holding hands, hugs or a touch on the arm. It’s not just about sex, it’s about knowing that you’re there and that you love them. An absence of physical contact has the potential to significantly damage relationships with people who have this love language.

 

Boundaries

Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask:

 

- Can I set limits and still be a loving person?

- What are legitimate boundaries?

- What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?

- How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?

- Aren't boundaries selfish?

- Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?

 

Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.

The Gifts of Imperfection

It is time to let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.  This books is one of my most favorite reads.  Brene’ Brown really helps the reader understand that they really are enough and they always have been. The author talks about courage, compassion and connection and how these three things can change your life.  If you’re tired of beating yourself up and want to start living a wholehearted life, you must read this book.  You can always check out Brene’ Brown on youtube and watch her talk on vulnerability.  I promise you’ll love what she has to say and want to read her books as fast as you can get your hand on them.


Cutting: Understanding and Overcoming Self Mutilation

This is a great book for parents and for anyone engaged in cutting. The explanations on who the cutter is and how they utilize cutting behaviors to deal with emotions brings meaning to a topic that is often not talked about openly. I found this books to be very helpful in working with my clients who engaged in cutting. The author does a good job sharing basic information and offering strategies for treatments.



Life Strategies for Teens

This book offers the The Ten Laws of Life  to help teenagers make the journey to adulthood an  easier and more fulfilling trip.  It offers more than just simple advice for teens to stay afloat, it really offers information that can help them thrive in those pivotal years.  This book is great for  teenagers or even the parents of teenagers that want to offer some guidance.  The book is written in an easy to read fashion with great illustrations, highlighted bullet points and places to actually write in the book.  It offers teens a chance to work through some of their behaviors and get on the best path for their future.


Getting the Love You Want

The author wrote this book to share the psychology of love relationships and to help readers transform their relationships into a lasting source of love and companionship.  Reading this book will help you understand the dynamics of you and your partner’s relationship and how to move towards a conscious marriage that is satisfying to both of you.

His Needs, Her Needs

If you want to know the ten most important marital needs of husbands and wives and how to fulfill them for each other, this is a must read book!  The books offers information to help you retain and develop irresistible qualities.  You’ll also learn to avoid the common errors that lead to affairs and divorce.